Plot Twist: Men are in fact NOT from Mars
It is so easy to say that men and women are on two different planets when the obvious truth is, men and women communicate differently. While I think many people are willing to admit this, the question is, how many people are willing to change their communication patterns?
I have a friend, Megan, who has been in love with her prince, Harry for a few years now. Does Harry know? I'm not sure. They have spent time together, hung out and enjoyed one another's company, but they haven't ever had a talk that clarifies 'what they are' or where they are headed.
Each time she complains about him I ask her the same question, have you guys talked about what you want and where your relationship is headed? Each time she gives me a response that means "NO" although she uses many more words, and none of them an actual answer. Her underlying response is that she refuses to be the first to broach the subject because she doesn't want to be hurt. I've suggested to her many times that perhaps she is still subjecting herself to unnecessary pain by avoiding the conversation, but she still refuses.
Because I've been there, I feel that she is delaying the inevitable. People always say that a man who wants you makes sure that you know, but actions can be interpreted differently. Your girlfriends can't tell you what he is thinking. His boys can't help him figure out how you feel or what your next move will be. How many times have we gone down that path before and been wrong? Yet every time we find someone we are interested in, we do the same thing. Revert to tactics from back in elementary school when our friends went and told the boy of our choice how we felt and if he felt the same way, he made a move.
As adults, it's best to have a conversation and make everything clear, without the input of others, just a conversation between the two of you. Especially if we are looking for long-term relationships, it is best that we put all of our cards on the table and have a mature conversation about our intentions, our wants, desires, hopes, what we have to offer and what we need. It may be difficult, but it is necessary because it is easier to be clear with your potential significant other and get all the cards on the table than to skirt around issues and waste a lot of time and effort. Yes, it may be hard and require vulnerability, but you can put your heart out there before a lot of investments have been made, or wait and feel humiliated later.
Allowing pride to overtake you only delays the inevitable. Despite assumptions, women don't 'just know' when a man is interested and men cannot 'just tell' how a woman feels, but they do communicate differently from women. And they need you to be clear about your wants and intentions. Women are smart, but women are not mind-readers. People date differently, and different gestures have different levels of significance. The only way to be on the same page is to have a conversation where everything is openly discussed: this is what I want or need, what I am hoping for and how I would like things to progress from here. Or maybe you need to ask him how he feels and what he wants, but no matter what they told you, there is a plot twist. Men are NOT from Mars... at least not the majority of men. 😁😁😁
I have a friend, Megan, who has been in love with her prince, Harry for a few years now. Does Harry know? I'm not sure. They have spent time together, hung out and enjoyed one another's company, but they haven't ever had a talk that clarifies 'what they are' or where they are headed.
Each time she complains about him I ask her the same question, have you guys talked about what you want and where your relationship is headed? Each time she gives me a response that means "NO" although she uses many more words, and none of them an actual answer. Her underlying response is that she refuses to be the first to broach the subject because she doesn't want to be hurt. I've suggested to her many times that perhaps she is still subjecting herself to unnecessary pain by avoiding the conversation, but she still refuses.
Because I've been there, I feel that she is delaying the inevitable. People always say that a man who wants you makes sure that you know, but actions can be interpreted differently. Your girlfriends can't tell you what he is thinking. His boys can't help him figure out how you feel or what your next move will be. How many times have we gone down that path before and been wrong? Yet every time we find someone we are interested in, we do the same thing. Revert to tactics from back in elementary school when our friends went and told the boy of our choice how we felt and if he felt the same way, he made a move.
As adults, it's best to have a conversation and make everything clear, without the input of others, just a conversation between the two of you. Especially if we are looking for long-term relationships, it is best that we put all of our cards on the table and have a mature conversation about our intentions, our wants, desires, hopes, what we have to offer and what we need. It may be difficult, but it is necessary because it is easier to be clear with your potential significant other and get all the cards on the table than to skirt around issues and waste a lot of time and effort. Yes, it may be hard and require vulnerability, but you can put your heart out there before a lot of investments have been made, or wait and feel humiliated later.
Allowing pride to overtake you only delays the inevitable. Despite assumptions, women don't 'just know' when a man is interested and men cannot 'just tell' how a woman feels, but they do communicate differently from women. And they need you to be clear about your wants and intentions. Women are smart, but women are not mind-readers. People date differently, and different gestures have different levels of significance. The only way to be on the same page is to have a conversation where everything is openly discussed: this is what I want or need, what I am hoping for and how I would like things to progress from here. Or maybe you need to ask him how he feels and what he wants, but no matter what they told you, there is a plot twist. Men are NOT from Mars... at least not the majority of men. 😁😁😁
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